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Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Friday, May 27, 2011
Musings: ...So I Don't Even Bother
I'm sorry...all rachetness aside, I find this video HILARIOUS! I'm not sure if she's a serious artist and I'm not trying to disrespect her at all. I actually like the old-school Cali feel of the track. I am however slightly offended at her choice of stage name... I mean "Kreayshawn" (Creation) *Insert wtf face here*. A slight mockery of the way black people choose to "creatively" spell their names? Idk, maybe I'm reaching...or not. Nonetheless, "Gucci, Gucci, Louis, Louis, Fendi, Fendi, Prada...basic bishes wear that ish so I don't even bother." Can it get any more real than that? I mean now a days you have girls spending their McDonald's paychecks on Louis bags and Louboutin-ing it up all the way to the bus stop. *shrugs* I guess...
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
When 140 Characters Isn't Enough...
Ok so...If all you talk about is how good you look, how phat your lul butt is, how perfect your c-cups are, how pretty your face ang hair is, yet you're always talking about the fact that a guy stood you up, won't come over, during the day, deleted your comments off his wall on facebook and call you during the wee hours of the morning AND if your thirsty behind is always subtweeting a different dude telling them how attractive you think they are, I see a trend. Perhaps having a big butt, perfect boobs, a cute face and pretty hair is not all it takes to get someone to take you seriously...so you should probably stop...plus it's not cute.
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#Pause so now everyone is a hippie, or a weirdo? I really wish people would stop with all the feeble attempts to be "different" sometimes you just have to accept the fact that you're not as unique as you would like to think. It's ok.
#newsflash people that are genuine usually don't label themselves with cliche' terms such as "hippie" or "weirdo"...you know, if that's the vibe you were going for.
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I am corny. I have long ago accepted this fact. There is no need for anyone else to inform me. I KNOW. Being corny is amusing to myself as well as others, and most importantly, there isn't much I can do about it.
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Cliche'...but I can't see myself with anyone other than him. I can see myself single...but not with anyone else.
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"I can't save the world, I'm still working on myself. All I can do is share my life experiences in hopes that you will use them to protect yours." -Mashonda
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Whenever I'm having fun, I never seem to have the time to tweet about it. In fact most times when I'm having fun I can't even locate my phone. I just find it hard to believe that you're having as much fun as you say you are, if you're taking time out of said oh so fun activity to tweet.
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At the end of the day, I don't want to be famous. I don't want to work for some super cool magazine and move to California or NYC. I just want to write enough so that people can see it. I want to encourage discussion. I want to volunteer. I want to help mold young girls into fruitful women. I want to own a restaurant, write in my notebook andsit at home with my kids nah, I'd be bored when they went to school
Fin.
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#Pause so now everyone is a hippie, or a weirdo? I really wish people would stop with all the feeble attempts to be "different" sometimes you just have to accept the fact that you're not as unique as you would like to think. It's ok.
#newsflash people that are genuine usually don't label themselves with cliche' terms such as "hippie" or "weirdo"...you know, if that's the vibe you were going for.
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I am corny. I have long ago accepted this fact. There is no need for anyone else to inform me. I KNOW. Being corny is amusing to myself as well as others, and most importantly, there isn't much I can do about it.
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Cliche'...but I can't see myself with anyone other than him. I can see myself single...but not with anyone else.
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"I can't save the world, I'm still working on myself. All I can do is share my life experiences in hopes that you will use them to protect yours." -Mashonda
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Whenever I'm having fun, I never seem to have the time to tweet about it. In fact most times when I'm having fun I can't even locate my phone. I just find it hard to believe that you're having as much fun as you say you are, if you're taking time out of said oh so fun activity to tweet.
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At the end of the day, I don't want to be famous. I don't want to work for some super cool magazine and move to California or NYC. I just want to write enough so that people can see it. I want to encourage discussion. I want to volunteer. I want to help mold young girls into fruitful women. I want to own a restaurant, write in my notebook and
Fin.
PWBC: Wounded by Claudia Mair Burney
The very first PWBC meeting took place last week and while it was a small group we definitely had a great discussion. Wounded turned out to be a very different love story than what I was expecting based on the summary on the back cover. When you think of a young black woman being the main character of a story with such a title. Your mind most likely shifts to ideas of infidelity, young motherhood, violence etc. Claudia Mair Burney definitely surprised us with a refreshing depiction of a young black mother's love for Christ while battling real live physical wounds. Yes. A Stigmatic. Facing this miracle, The main character was presented with many new people in her life and had to quickly learn to discern their characters in order to keep herself and her child safe from the media and any other people who may try to take advantage of her. Trusted sources became not so trustworthy, while a perfect stranger became the perfect love. All in all it was a great read.
Go read it!
May's Book Choice: Straight, No Chaser by Steve Harvey.
Don't judge! This WILL be a bomb discussion.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
We Want Pre-nup?
For whatever reason the topic of prenuptial agreements has been following me all this week. I'm pretty sure that I am now thoroughly and completely disgusted with society's idea of marriage, and the "me, me, me" attitude that is applied to EVERYTHING.
The most cited reason I saw from the pro pre-nups was that they feel a need to protect themselves and their assets in the event that anything was to go down. I mean yea...I feel that hot shit. I understand the logic behind it, and if you are thinking about it that way then it makes sense. But let's back it all the way up.
When you are choosing a mate for marriage aren't you choosing someone to be your partner for life? Someone whom you trust wholeheartedly? Someone that you know well enough and understand their character? Someone with whom you've experienced hardships and can actually formulate an idea of how they react to hard situations in your relationship? Someone that you know, knows how to work through problems effectively when the going gets tough? Oh that's not what y'all look at in your relationships? Oh my bad. Y'all are too busy worrying about trying to sex him right and make sure you have his dinner ready every night and trying to do things that you think are "wifely" that y'all are not even focusing on the real tools of marriage and when you do that, you may just be setting yourself up for a potential divorce. *shrugs* Cuz baby you knowing how to slob on his knob, pearl his j, keep his liquor poured and keep a hot plate on the stove are definitely not the things that will save your marriage should anything ever go awry...But anyway, that's a whole 'nother story.
See, I don't think the problem is that people need to protect themselves, I think the bigger issue at hand is that people are not making wise decisions about the people that they choose to enter into marriage with. Please explain to me why it makes sense to marry someone who you feel the need to protect yourself from? I'll wait...
Asking me for a pre-nup ESPECIALLY when you're not super wealthy would not only be hugely offensive to me and my character, but it would cause me to re-consider the marriage and conclude the following:
I just think its a bad start to a lifetime partnership to prelude it with trying to cover your own ass. That's selfish. Selfish doesn't work in marriage.
Perhaps if people would stop meeting people on e-harmony and black people meet and getting married after 6 months of being smitten with each other during the honeymoon stage of their relationships, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high
Perhaps if pressed females would stopped presenting dudes with ultimatums and begging him to put a ring on it after clinging to a sinking relationship for the past 8 years because they are afraid to be alone for a couple months to get themselves together, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
Perhaps if dudes stopped marrying girls just to have some type of "ownership" of them because they don't want to see them with anyone else, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high
Perhaps if people stopped getting married just because they like the idea of marriage and they want to have a big party and shack up without being judged, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
Perhaps if people went into marriages thinking about how they can always survive as opposed to how easy it is to get out of it, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
AND THEN...you wouldn't have to worry about trying to protect yourself.
I don't know about y'all, but I will not not enter in holy matrimony with someone that I need to lie about my vows with. Everything that I stand at the alter and say to my husband will be just that.Vows. Promises. Which will most certainly include "Till death do us part, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer." What the Lord has brought together, let NO man put asunder. And THAT'S what I'm planning for. *hairflip*
Summary: Choose your marriage partners wisely and you wouldn't need to protect yourself. Point blank. Period.
The most cited reason I saw from the pro pre-nups was that they feel a need to protect themselves and their assets in the event that anything was to go down. I mean yea...I feel that hot shit. I understand the logic behind it, and if you are thinking about it that way then it makes sense. But let's back it all the way up.
When you are choosing a mate for marriage aren't you choosing someone to be your partner for life? Someone whom you trust wholeheartedly? Someone that you know well enough and understand their character? Someone with whom you've experienced hardships and can actually formulate an idea of how they react to hard situations in your relationship? Someone that you know, knows how to work through problems effectively when the going gets tough? Oh that's not what y'all look at in your relationships? Oh my bad. Y'all are too busy worrying about trying to sex him right and make sure you have his dinner ready every night and trying to do things that you think are "wifely" that y'all are not even focusing on the real tools of marriage and when you do that, you may just be setting yourself up for a potential divorce. *shrugs* Cuz baby you knowing how to slob on his knob, pearl his j, keep his liquor poured and keep a hot plate on the stove are definitely not the things that will save your marriage should anything ever go awry...But anyway, that's a whole 'nother story.
See, I don't think the problem is that people need to protect themselves, I think the bigger issue at hand is that people are not making wise decisions about the people that they choose to enter into marriage with. Please explain to me why it makes sense to marry someone who you feel the need to protect yourself from? I'll wait...
Asking me for a pre-nup ESPECIALLY when you're not super wealthy would not only be hugely offensive to me and my character, but it would cause me to re-consider the marriage and conclude the following:
- You don't fully trust me or this relationship and in the back of your mind you are thinking that we could possibly fall apart one day...so you want to "prepare yourself"
- You don't trust my character enough to know that if we WERE to get a divorce that I'm not a conniving biotch who will try to take things that aren't rightfully mine.
- You don't trust a union that God brought together AND you don't trust him to see us through any issues that we may have in the marriage.
- Perhaps this isn't a union that God brought together and you needing protection and reassurance from anyone other than God is an indicator. In which case I would need to reconsider if I'm even gonna marry you. *shrugs*
I just think its a bad start to a lifetime partnership to prelude it with trying to cover your own ass. That's selfish. Selfish doesn't work in marriage.
Perhaps if people would stop meeting people on e-harmony and black people meet and getting married after 6 months of being smitten with each other during the honeymoon stage of their relationships, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high
Perhaps if pressed females would stopped presenting dudes with ultimatums and begging him to put a ring on it after clinging to a sinking relationship for the past 8 years because they are afraid to be alone for a couple months to get themselves together, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
Perhaps if dudes stopped marrying girls just to have some type of "ownership" of them because they don't want to see them with anyone else, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high
Perhaps if people stopped getting married just because they like the idea of marriage and they want to have a big party and shack up without being judged, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
Perhaps if people went into marriages thinking about how they can always survive as opposed to how easy it is to get out of it, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
AND THEN...you wouldn't have to worry about trying to protect yourself.
I don't know about y'all, but I will not not enter in holy matrimony with someone that I need to lie about my vows with. Everything that I stand at the alter and say to my husband will be just that.Vows. Promises. Which will most certainly include "Till death do us part, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer." What the Lord has brought together, let NO man put asunder. And THAT'S what I'm planning for. *hairflip*
Summary: Choose your marriage partners wisely and you wouldn't need to protect yourself. Point blank. Period.
Monday, April 11, 2011
A Very Miniature Rant
I hate when people tell me I think I know everything. Saying that I "think I know everything" would imply
that every time I think I'm right about something, I'm actually always wrong or never know what I'm talking about. Generally If I don't know about something or don't have any hard facts, I won't debate it. Duh.
Whenever I'm interested in something, I take time out to research and inform myself more about it. Which means that I know a lot...about a lot of things. For the life of me, I could never understand why people ask questions and then act all funny when someone actually presents them with an answer to it. Umm did you not just ask a question? Why do I have to "think I know everything" just because I answered you? If you ask a question, I more than likely have an answer or can suggest somewhere you may be able to find more information, because I've probably already had the same question. BUT I like to find out answers rather than just wonder about things. So no, I don't think I know everything, but I probably know more than you. :-)
that every time I think I'm right about something, I'm actually always wrong or never know what I'm talking about. Generally If I don't know about something or don't have any hard facts, I won't debate it. Duh.
Whenever I'm interested in something, I take time out to research and inform myself more about it. Which means that I know a lot...about a lot of things. For the life of me, I could never understand why people ask questions and then act all funny when someone actually presents them with an answer to it. Umm did you not just ask a question? Why do I have to "think I know everything" just because I answered you? If you ask a question, I more than likely have an answer or can suggest somewhere you may be able to find more information, because I've probably already had the same question. BUT I like to find out answers rather than just wonder about things. So no, I don't think I know everything, but I probably know more than you. :-)
Friday, April 8, 2011
Get Hip.
That was my slang for the day. :-) I first got mention of this new group from a Twitter post that got Erykah Badu fans all in a tizzy. She stated that she would follow anyone who twitpic'd a receipt showing that they had purchased KING's new EP. In an INSTANT people started tweeting all wild with their little screenshots of their itunes receipts. By the way she actually really did end up following all those people. But anyway, I decided to go check the EP out on itunes and I INSTANTLY fell in love. I didn't even twitpic my receipt to Erykah, I just sat and replayed the three tracks over and over again, I looked up and it was like 2am O_o.
So you know me, Harriet the Spy had to go trying to search for some information. I wasn't so much interested in how Erykah found out about them, but I wanted to know more about the girls. I didn't find out much other than the fact the group is made up of twins Amber and Paris Strother and Anita Bias. They produced the ENTIRE album themselves, vocals, arrangements and production and they even did their own music video with their own artwork.
I'm really disappointed that there are only three tracks, BUT they are SOLID tracks. Just thought I'd share my new obsession. Here is a video of the first track called "Story".
So you know me, Harriet the Spy had to go trying to search for some information. I wasn't so much interested in how Erykah found out about them, but I wanted to know more about the girls. I didn't find out much other than the fact the group is made up of twins Amber and Paris Strother and Anita Bias. They produced the ENTIRE album themselves, vocals, arrangements and production and they even did their own music video with their own artwork.
I'm really disappointed that there are only three tracks, BUT they are SOLID tracks. Just thought I'd share my new obsession. Here is a video of the first track called "Story".
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